Nothing’s worse than a cheater, which is why it’s so satisfying to hear when they got caught. And when it's their partners who catch them? Even better! Whether they discovered a scandalous text, an odd piece of clothing, or were tipped off by a good friend, these 50 Redditors reveal how they caught their partners cheating.
1. Telling Texts
He gave me his phone to hold while he was having a minor medical procedure and while in the waiting room, a text came through. It said something like "Ha, so we can do the deed again?" I was totally confused, so I scrolled up through the text thread. That's when it finally hit me. I saw her write, "I'm sorry if you feel guilty" and him writing "No, I'd only feel guilty if I still loved her". That was totally the end of that relationship.
2. Right In Front Of Her?
I have a 16-year-old daughter. My wife was cheating with another teacher in her high school classroom and that teacher would come by for a quick flirt before school while my daughter was actually sitting there doing homework. I couldn't believe the balls on that guy. My daughter ultimately gave me screenshots of their texts and a photo of them doing stuff in his car. Poor kid. I had been married 20 years and the dude was married for 30 years.
3. Again And Again
I was pregnant and they were doing the standard tests including STDs, and I tested positive for chlamydia. I was so embarrassed but glad to have found out because it turns out that can really mess up a pregnancy. I was married, and it turns out my husband got caught cheating on me while pregnant. I forgave him. He came clean.
I forgave him and he did it a few more times and we got a divorce. It still took me another year to file for divorce though.
4. Not As Expected
In my head I thought the six-year-long relationship I had just ran its course and I was even happy. I felt I was gaining a true lifelong friend even if we weren’t together. Two weeks later, I get a call from the other woman. She flew him out across the country to meet her parents. He gets there and decides he doesn’t want to date her. But he messed with the wrong girl. Out of spite, she calls me and tells me about their three-year-long affair.
I still need a therapist to unpack all that.
5. Seriously? Him?
An acquaintance of mine came home from work one day and found his missus sleeping with his dad. That blew up all over Facebook, and became a local drama fest where people tried to organize a shunning of the dad and missus. I remember it well because, well...I know people cheat, but with your partner's father? Come on...
6. Just As I Suspected
My wife was acting unusual for a few weeks. She would want to spend time by herself on the weekends and when she came home at night from work, she would often sit in the driveway for 20 minutes on the phone. I'm not dumb. I knew just how to catch her red-handed. I bought a voice-activated digital recorder and stuck it in her car. I knew what I needed to know in less than 24 hours.
7. It’s My House
The other woman knocked on my front door and asked me to take my kid and get out so that the two of them could be together and be happy. I told her she could have him, but they'd have to go because technically I owned the house. I then told him he was free to go. He did not go, sadly. But it gets worse: Turns out the woman had been dropped off by her ex who she'd cheated on with my husband. That was quite awkward.
8. We’re The Same
A man knocked on my door and introduced himself as the husband of a woman that my husband worked with. He was there to tell me that his wife was having an affair with my husband. My husband never actually came home after that. He called me, said he got an Airbnb and told me to get a lawyer. Thing is, we had been together for a full 24 years.
9. Giving Thanks
A friend was headed to Thanksgiving with her husband when she got a text from a woman saying, "Your husband has been sleeping with me and several other women," then gave a list of the women. She was aghast, not sure what to do, then the woman sent her pictures as evidence. The woman was so mad, as he had promised her that he would spend Thanksgiving with her instead of his wife. My friend divorced him.
10. Caught In The Act
We were together for five years, living together for around four. I came home from work early. When I got out of my car, I saw her peek through the blinds to see who was outside. I walked in the door to her coworker on the couch, obviously uncomfortable, clothes messy, and my girlfriend locked in the bathroom. I wanted to pummel him then and there, but he was a trained MMA fighter, and I would have left the house that night with more than a broken heart.
Instead, I went to a friend's house for a while. My girlfriend and her coworker started dating the next day. It took a while for me to get trust back in relationships.
11. It’s Not Even Out Yet!
My girlfriend lied about going to see a movie that wasn't coming out for another two weeks. I pressed, and the truth came out. We stayed together under the guise of us working on us and fixing the problems that needed fixing. I tried. Hard. Two months later, a mutual friend tells me that she's been seeing the one dude. I talk to him, and find out that she's been seeing him, and three other people!
12. Some Messy Messages
This was a long time ago, before social media. I went to check my email on his computer and his instant messenger popped up. His "ex-girlfriend" couldn't wait to finally see him next week, and that long-distance has been awful and she couldn’t wait to reconnect. He told me they broke up. They did not. He did not tell her about me or that we were living together.
I was suddenly homeless. She did fly in the next week and gave the ring back. I did not know they were engaged, because I thought they had broken up. Yay, good times.
13. Taking A Break
After eight years together, he told me he wanted a break to figure out "if this was what he really wanted". After I said no, I wanted to either work on things or end it, a few days later he admitted he'd met someone. So basically, he asked me to hang around waiting for him while he slept with some other girl for a bit. Good riddance to that one.
14. Liar, Liar
Me and the other two guys I worked with had something come up in conversation. She told one of my coworkers that me and her had broken up, and she told my second coworker that I gave her a pass while I was on vacation. You'd think she would have learned. I found out a few years later she did the same thing with a couple guys at the gym she was working at, when those two guys showed up at her house to call her out on it.
15. Not As Good As I Thought
My wife was sleeping with her boss in one of the most clichéd stories possible. I really think if she’d said to me the passion and love was gone, we could’ve divorced amicably, because I was miserable too. Thing is, she decided to completely clean out both our house and bank account, and well, that changed the dynamic just a smidge.
16. Awful Accusations
I decided to get a divorce. Dude wouldn't stop accusing me of cheating. After I left, some mutual friends of ours at the time told me he was on dating sites. When I went back to the house to grab some of my stuff, another woman had moved in, and it was only two days after I left. It all started to make sense... Apparently, it's true that if they're cheating, they will accuse you.
I don't know all the details, and don't want to. Better off sparing my feelings and not knowing all the details than to be ripped apart inside of I do.
17. Pregnancy Problems
My son ended up in the hospital with pneumonia when he was just six weeks old. They couldn’t find out what was wrong with him, and he ended up in the ICU. Turns out it was bacterial pneumonia, because his dad had cheated on me throughout my pregnancy and gave me chlamydia, which then went into our son’s lungs when I gave birth.
18. Thanks For The Favor
I got an email from some guy I met once at a friend of a friend's party. My wife was seeing his former housemate behind my back. He had been cheated on himself and was doing me a solid favor. He tipped me off with the address and said to check EZ pass and phone records. I caught and confronted her leaving the guy's house the next day. We're lucky we didn't have any kids.
I've been divorced for almost 10 years now, and I’ve never been happier.
19. It All Stopped
He stopped smiling at me. Stopped kissing me good night. Stopped holding my hand. He became very short and inpatient with me, and mean. Didn't seem to want me around. Spent lots of time in his office. He was on his phone a lot and would get messages and be smiling. Then he asked me for a divorce. I decided to snoop. I opened his laptop and saw all the evidence. It totally destroyed me.
20. What Were They Thinking?
This was many years ago. The boyfriend of a couple we used to hang out with had a massive crush on me. Somehow it was decided by the three of them that if my boyfriend hooked up with this guy's girlfriend, then I would sleep with the guy as revenge. I was so disgusted with them all! Of course, I never had anything to do with this loser, and my boyfriend and I broke up. There were many problems with this relationship and this was like the icing on the cake.
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21. That’s My Business
My girlfriend at the time used my laptop to boast to her friends about cheating on the guy she was cheating on me with. Then, she left the browser open when she went to work. I sat down to watch movies and it was the first thing I saw. She yelled at me when I told her what I found. She said I'd invaded her privacy. She called me a stalker and said I couldn't be trusted, and also that she'd need to stay at the house another month or two until she found another place.
On some level, I still admire her conviction in arguing against me.
22. Weren’t They With You?
I was working late until 1 am and always called my ex on the way home because she would stay up to hear about my day. Asked her what she was doing and she said she was lying in bed, but I could hear people talking in the background. Believed her at first, but her house was literally on the same street I took home and her car wasn't out front so I stopped by.
I texted that I was on the front porch and she should come out to say hi. Her mom happens to be awake and sees me on the porch, then comes out and says "she told me she was with you". Turns out she was with my best friend that had lived with me for four years but had recently moved out.
23. Out The Window
My neighbors told me after the fact that they would see dudes climbing out the window sometimes as I was getting home from work. She ended up walking out on me and the kids. She even took everything we owned and emptied our bank account! Ironically, some of my best memories of being a parent was being flat-broke, raising two little kids by myself.
24. A Crashed Wedding
He slept with one of our friends the day before he proposed, and I found out from her a month before we were going to get married. I had to pick out flowers for the wedding the day after I found out, and felt so mortified and sad. After I left the florists, I canceled the wedding. I was dumb and tried to work it out with him because I was with him for more than 10 years.
He was emotionally manipulative, so I had a hard time leaving. After a few months of feeling awful and going to therapy, I finally left.
25. One Last Time
We had just got done being intimate, and my boyfriend turns to me telling me he’s in love with someone else. He had been seeing some girl from work and she had just left her husband. So, he decided to get together with her, yet I guess he couldn't tell me that before he had one last romp in the hay. It messed me up pretty bad emotionally for a long time.
26. Breaking Language Barriers
My husband had a habit of talking to people on speaker phone. Late one night I hear him talking to someone in Hebrew. He thought that because I couldn’t speak it that I didn’t understand it. They were talking about meeting up again. I let him know that I knew and he didn’t believe me because he thought I didn’t speak Hebrew. I keep pushing it, and that was the end of that.
27. After The Break
Imagine if you will, going home on Christmas break and coming back next semester to your girlfriend ignoring you almost entirely, except when she wants something, and hanging out with your roommate a whole lot more than she ever did before. Then, imagine coming back to the dorm early from class and walking in on them going at it on your bed.
28. Not What I Needed
After my grandpa passed, I went through a little depression, and because I "wasn't giving her the attention she needed", I could feel my girlfriend start slipping away emotionally. I asked if there were other dudes, she of course denied it, but I wasn't convinced. So, one day after she got home from "staying the night at her friend's house", I decided to look through her messages on the watch I bought her. Our relationship ended after that.
29. Checking The Cameras
I had a gut feeling something was going on and checked my security cameras. My wife’s coworker would come over after I left and they would spend the morning together. Not sure which was worse, that he was in my bed with my wife or that he was petting my dog! We struggled for a few years after, and I filed for divorce soon after. I've fully moved on and happily remarried.
I dealt with a lot of trauma related to that relationship but I feel I'm in a way better place physically and emotionally.
30. Cut It Out
I got an actual "individual words and letters cut out of a magazine and glued into a page to make a message" anonymous letter mailed to me at home. It was so creepy. It said that it was from a co-worker of my ex, and that my ex was sleeping with her married boss. I showed it to my ex, and she started silently crying, then she took the letter from me and burned it while begging me to not believe it.
Shortly after that, I caught her making out with said boss at a work party.
31. Can I Please?
My ex-wife actually asked me for her blessing to commit adultery with another married man. She was shocked when I said I don't support it, went ballistic, and decided to go and do it anyway. After that, she actually ended up in a psych ward for a short time. After our marriages ended, the two cheaters—my wife and the other man—are now engaged. I was a little devastated at first, but it was a blessing in disguise.
32. Tossed Out
I had come home from a 5-month cruise. My girlfriend at the time was a court stenographer. So, when she wasn't at the pier, I figured she had a case or was catching up on transcripts. I got a ride from my friend to see an unfamiliar BMW in my driveway. I walk in to see her with some stranger on my couch. Keep in mind this was my house, not hers.
I didn't say a word to her. I just started grabbing her things and throwing them in the front yard, then called her father to come pick her up.
33. The Terrible Trip
We were on a trip, and I had my suspicions that my girlfriend hooked up with her ex when she went back home to visit her parents a short time ago. When she got back, we were a lot less physical. We went snowboarding during our trip and I couldn’t take it anymore. So, I told her I didn’t feel good, and went to the locker with all of our stuff in it.
I opened her phone and went straight to her ex in the message. It was there I found recent pictures of some really explicit photos and texts. After nearly puking, needless to say, that was a long 3-hour ride home.
34. Who’s The Better One?
I found out my husband had signed up for a bunch of apps such as Ashley Madison, Tinder, and Bumble. He would message mutual acquaintances asking if they’d be up for massages. I blamed myself for years that he wasn’t interested in sleeping with me because I’d had a baby and gained a little weight. Nope. He just enjoyed contacting other women for pleasure more.
We’re in the middle of our divorce now. He somehow doesn’t understand why I’m wrecking our marriage because of a few indiscretions.
35. A Slew Of Insults
I didn't catch her cheating, she actually told me I wasn't a real man and that's why she did it. She just told me everything she hated about me while she was driving, went on to say why I'm worthless, pulled over, and kicked me out of the car, forcing me to walk back to my place. I went home, cried, went to bed, stayed in bed for a few days, thought I was a terrible person for a few weeks, cut my holiday leave short, and went back to work early to get my mind off things.
36. Even Him?!
After I ended my first relationship, six months later, my ex and I met to talk about some stuff because she moved in with my mother. She told me that she had cheated on me with six different guys during our two-and-a-half-year relationship, and one of them was even her own stepdad. To hit me even harder, she told me how they all were much better and could satisfy her more than I ever would be able to.
It took me a decade before I got into my next relationship. I couldn't trust anyone anymore for a long time.
37. My New Best Friend
The other woman found out about me when a mutual friend showed her my pictures with my husband and our kids on Facebook. She contacted me to apologize and let me know she had been told he was single. We met for a drink and to compare notes—after she showed me texts and proof that he had been cheating on me for months, we both dumped him.
After that, we flew off to party together in New Orleans for a few days, and have been besties for over 12 years. He was the best thing that ever happened to me – he introduced me to what ended up being my best friend.
38. With My Boss?
I came home after working a 16-hour shift, and it was 3 am. I sneak in without turning on any lights so I don't wake her. Her phone lights up, and it's a text saying "I wish you were in my arms again tonight". I see the number and my heart sinks. It's my boss. My girlfriend said I wasn't there for her because I was working too much, except I was covering shifts for my boss who said he was going through something.
I threw her out that night. I didn't even let her get dressed. The regional manager found out what was happening too and fired my boss. Then, he called to have him blacklisted at all the places he had sway.
39. Like An Open Facebook
In the past, Facebook used to display on your profile stuff like “Bob liked a photo”, and everything you did. I noticed my boyfriend liked a photo of a girl that seemed to be someone he had recently added. So, I checked her profile and she was one of those girls who think “they won” because men cheat on their partners with them.
She had everything public, photos with him, bragging about the texts they exchanged. So, I came up with a devious plan. I engineered a way to befriend her roommate, and I would then find out she was bringing other dudes home besides my boyfriend. When I confronted him, I also let him know about who else she was sleeping with.
40. Too Busy For That
My now ex-husband demanded constant access to all of my social media and cell phone messages and was constantly accusing me of cheating even though he had no reason to think I would do that. I had nothing to hide. Never even thought of cheating. I was watching our young kids 24-7 and didn't even have transportation since he accidentally totaled my car.
One day I handed over my phone for him to check for other men and asked to see his. He hesitated but then handed it over. Biggest mistake of his life. There was a long, saucy, text history with one of the teenage girls who works for him. He tells me he's in love with her and wants her to move in with us. I was in total shock, dropped his phone cracking it. He retaliated by breaking my laptop.
41. It’s A Girl?!
I found out at the ultrasound to determine the gender of our child. He was late and I was noodling on Facebook waiting to be called. He was tagged in some photos in my news feed from a gig he’d been at on the previous weekend. Some random lass was in all the photos of him and they were all over each other. Also, they were making out in the background of one photo. I couldn't believe he'd be so stupid.
He turned up after I was called in. While the technician was printing the images, I told him I knew. He went off and on about how I was making it up, he’d never do that, and obviously I was lying to compensate for cheating on him and so on. When I pointed out there were photos he stormed out and left me there. My Dad had turned up during the appointment and took me home.
42. Giving Trust
This is about my college girlfriend. She said she was hanging out with her friend, Kenny. I knew Kenny a little bit and being a trusting guy, I didn’t think anything of it. A couple days later I was helping her put her laundry away and found Kenny’s shirt. She explained it away as innocent and I gave her the benefit of the doubt, as I didn’t think anyone cheating would be that stupid to be caught cheating so easily.
I casually brought this up to a mutual friend to all three of us. They were like “Yeah…she’s definitely banging Kenny…and has been for your entire relationship”. Apparently, everyone knew except me, and my friends didn’t know how to tell me. To this day, I still think my friends not telling me the girl was cheating hurt more than the actual cheating.
43. When I Was Away
I was in the Navy and was out on deployment for six months after just recently getting engaged. It's one of those stupid things that young army guys do. One day, I get a letter from my fiancée's best friend telling me that she caught my fiancée and her boyfriend together. We write back and forth several times and eventually it comes out how she caught them, how my fiancée begged her not to tell me, and that she didn't know that we were corresponding.
I eventually get back to the States and planned to play it off as though I didn't know, but too many of my friends intercepted me with the news that it wasn't just the one guy, but several, and let me know that she knew that I was aware. Eventually, we met, and the confrontation was minimal and tame. We broke off the engagement without a lot of drama, but she kept the ring.
The best friend and I ended up hooking up, at first as sort of a revenge kind of thing, but turned serious. We actually celebrate our 32nd wedding anniversary this year!
44. My Best Friend
My best friend was friends with my girlfriend and her roommates. Word got to my friend about her bringing some dude home after a party and my friend eventually spilled it to me. As she said, "I really don't want to tell you this and I know this will crush you, but I can't keep this from you." After she dropped that shocker, I was like "No! That would never happen!"
When I confronted my girlfriend about it that night, she broke down and confessed everything. I stayed with that girl for another 7 months and God bless my friend for sticking by my side and supporting me the whole way. When I finally ended things, my best friend was still there to support me and care for me.
45. The Trip Is Ruined
I went on a solo road trip to California from New York. My then-boyfriend of five years was supposed to fly to San Diego when I arrived, then we'd drive home together. I pick him up from the airport, and he uses his phone to pull up directions for our restaurant reservation. He gets a notification from a social media app he must've forgotten to delete.
I ask him about it, and he suddenly grabs his phone and deletes the app. He says it would hurt me more to read the conversations he'd been having with women, and that I'm obviously going to dump him either way so he wanted to save himself the embarrassment of getting exposed. Oh, but I had to make him pay somehow: I made him call his mom and arrange to have his stuff moved out of our apartment.
I told him to find his own way home, and finished the road trip home without him. When I got home, it was like he'd never lived there. Exactly how I wanted.
46. Mom’s Help
I open up our tablet to play with it, and found an open email that I had never seen before. I read the messages between them, and I’ve never been the same since. We were together for 30 years, but we’re divorced now. I tried and wanted to keep my marriage, but he continued to lie and betray me so that I was left with no choice but to divorce.
Do you know what helped me so much? My mom, without asking or anything, came over and filled my freezer with crock pot meals and casseroles. I was so depressed and I had two children to care for, so my mom’s dinners were always so easy just to pop in and be done with. She did that for about a year. I’m forever grateful for her thoughtfulness and generosity.
47. Picture Perfect
Her roommates called and asked me to meet them for lunch, and said it was important. I met them and they told me she had been cheating on me with her ex the entire time I was deployed. They showed me the pictures, back when you had to get pictures developed. They said I was a good man and I didn't deserve to be treated like that.
They had collected my things that morning when she left for work and gave them to me. I drove to her work, walked up to her, showed her the pictures, and demanded the ring back. She gave it to me and I left. Later she called me yelling about me "conspiring with her roommates," basically trying to make it my fault. She asked what I was doing meeting with them.
I said, "It's called respect and closure and it sounds like this" I unplugged the landline, waited an hour, plugged in the phone and called the phone company, said I needed to change my number, and never heard from her again. I took it really rough and am thankful for her roommates and the friends that got me through probably the darkest time of my life.
48. All The Little Things
It wasn’t a big dam-breaking moment for me. It was a lot of little things. Like how she’d cancel plans at the last second, or the random phone calls from unknown numbers she’d get, or how her phone was mysteriously off one night when I needed to get a hold of her. I had my suspicions, and then finally it clicked into place when I did some Instagram snooping and found a guy who followed her who posted a selfie wearing a very unique jacket that belonged to her.
I confronted her the next day. She denied it. Tears. Begging. All of that. I dumped her and walked away. The next day I messaged that guy on Instagram and he confirmed everything. He actually had no idea I existed! So knowing that now, he dumped her too. Last I heard, she’s an EMT. I hope she figured out how not to be a garbage person.
49. In The Same House
I owned a house with my fiancé, but I woke up in the middle of the night and he wasn’t in bed. I went searching. His truck and another vehicle were in the driveway. Then, I went upstairs and found that the guest bedroom was locked. After barging my way in, I find him with another woman in bed. That bed happened to be my childhood bed. And I haven't even gotten to the unforgivable part.
He forced me out of the room, literally grabbing me by the neck, pushing me out, and closing the door back. I knew I couldn’t do anything at that point, so I called his parents who lived a few blocks away. His dad showed up and another fight erupted. I ended up leaving and staying at his parents’ place until dawn. I moved out that weekend and let the house foreclose.
Nine years later, it’s finally off my credit report I’m happily married to an amazing man and we own a beautiful home together.
50. We All Saw You
Four years ago, I was dating a girl who became distant and disinterested in a lot of things we both enjoyed together. Despite attempts to talk about it, she only grew more distant then became less available to hang out and suddenly was working late a lot. I started getting suspicious about cheating when she was on her phone nonstop.
Again, I tried to talk about it but she wouldn't engage. She also just didn't want to break up with me for whatever reason. I was actually going to end it on my own, but one weekend when she was seemingly unavailable, some mutual friends told me they spotted her with a dude from her work and they were all over each other. But it was worse than I thought.
She had also lent me her iPad and it was synced to her phone, so I saw lots of texts between those two over that weekend. They were talking about running away together. He was married and her supervisor. Their mutual friends were also composed of her coworkers and reported them to HR. They were both forced to do training on not sleeping with coworkers, they were both denied promotion, his wife left him, and she moved overseas.
It sucked at the time and I was devastated, but karma got them good.
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